Category: Relationships

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GRATITUDE: A MEANS OF GETTING BLESSINGS FROM GOD?

We may not have realized it yet, but it’s seeping through to the surface. I have seen videos (skits), movies with the message of gratitude. The narrative being pushed? We all know it. ” When you come before GOD, instead of complaining and asking for things you’re still believing for, praise GOD, appreciate HIM and then HE will bless you”. It’s been sinking in, I myself too found myself caught up in it.

Let me tell you what this has done and is doing to us, it’s made us not truly worship. If we sincerely look deeper, we will realize that with each praise, each show of gratitude to our Maker, we are expecting something, double promotion, double miracle, name them, things probably more than what we even think. I mean, when you praise GOD HE stands up from HIS throne right? We force HIS hand to move, isn’t it? So when we try to praise, we hope to force HIM to do something for us.

Well, how about praising HIM and not getting anything? Have we thought of that? Maybe the thought has crept in, and we silenced it, binding and casting every “evil voice”

We really need to come to a place of genuine thanksgiving. Thanksgiving for life, for JESUS, for the blood that HE shed, for every good thing HE has given to you. The scripture tells us that every good and perfect thing is from the LORD, how about appreciating HIM for that? The Psalmist says, my soul forget not HIS benefits. When you begin to see just how good HE has been, you’ll find yourself bursting out I’m praise without thinking of your request.

Am I saying don’t make requests? No. 🙉 I’m saying we should not use our praise as a means of exchange, let our praise not be transactional. Yes, we may have been doing it subconsciously because of what our mind has been fed with (this is the power of media), but we’ve become conscious now, so let’s begin to refeed our minds. The scripture is the perfect tool to begin with.

Let’s praise with reckless abandon. Let’s praise not expecting anything in return. Let’s praise because HE is GOD and we reverence HIM. This is the true praise, one from the depths of our soul. Let’s make praise a lifestyle.

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IS MARRIAGE BEFORE SEX NO LONGER POSSIBLE?

Have we really gotten to the point where marriage without sex seems beyond reach? You can’t court without sex anymore?

They used to say, abi I’ve heard people say they were told that they must have sex before they get married, were shamed for keeping pure, read people’s experience or in books. I remember always thinking to myself that if they had godly, like-minded friends, they won’t hear such statements. Then I heard more, and I knew that sometimes these people are not really friends but they’re around you, like roommates, course mates, colleagues in the workplace.

Never in this life would I have thought that I’d hear something like that personally. It never occurred to me that I would hear this directly, that I would have a personal experience. No! But I realized something.

There are so many people who don’t believe that you can have a pure relationship before marriage.They don’t know or perhaps don’t want to agree that sex is not used to show love and commitment before marriage. Everything seems to revolve around sex in today’s world. Nobody is thinking about Christ, there are no christian values anymore. What is happening to us?

A premarital relationship built on sex is not a strong , healthy relationship. If there’s no money, and there’s no sex, the cracks begin to show, the relationship becomes rocky 🌊.

Relationships are built on values, principles, whether platonic or romantic. When everything is about sex, how do you plan for your home? How do you partner to bring great things to life? Isn’t it what marriage should be? Partnership, companionship, and companionship is not sex, no! Does sex take away loneliness? It can’t. Our minds have become twisted. Since we began to welcome sex before marriage, we’ve been having divorce cases that never seem to end, yet we’re not asking questions? Once something isn’t positively productive, shouldn’t we ask questions? Shouldn’t we shift? What’s going on?!

We think sex is what keeps a partner. When you eventually get married, you’ll find out that no matter how much sex you have with your spouse, it won’t stop them from cheating if they are already loose. When people get married and accuse their partners of cheating (which is one of the leading causes of divorce), check, they were probably having sex before tying the knot. This is just one issue, there are others. Issues like this can be spotted before marriage, but they’re having sex already, what’s the point?

Once sex comes into the equation, guess what happens, we lose our sense of reasoning. The important questions we should ask, we don’t ask. Red flags are ignored. Traits we should look out for, escape us. Then you enter the marriage, and you realize that you can’t deal, then you hop out to file for a divorce. And we keep going on like this. I’m not saying that people who kept themselves before marriage don’t divorce. Once you don’t choose right (through the help of the HOLY SPIRIT), one party or both parties don’t act right, divorce is usually looming over them.

However, we can’t deny the fact that is staring us in the eye. That welcoming sex before marriage has brought disasters to homes. What do we listen to? What do we watch? We don’t censor and we don’t filter anymore. Once we see it on our screens, it looks acceptable. Do we have to keep destroying ourselves?

Sex before marriage has never and can never be the right way. We can never have homes functioning optimally, born from sex before marriage. The word of GOD remains true. HEB 13:4